This was the most e-mailed article in today’s New York Times:
Four years after the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development published a survey in which 12 percent of respondents reported sleeping with their babies, those babies have grown into children, and those children are still in their parents’ bed. Many parents are reluctant co-sleepers, too tired to disrupt a practice that may irritate one or both adults, but, in the end, seems to promise the most amount of sleep for the most people in the house.
When is it time to reclaim your bed from your kids?
Here are some notable excerpts:
Ms. Kunhardt (a Manhattan sleep consultant) and others suggest that parents, stung by the sometimes arbitrary boundaries set by their own parents, are concerned to a fault with the emotional well-being of their children.
“I say they’re much sturdier than we think they are,” Ms. Kunhardt said. “You can be both a really empathetic parent and be firm.”
“It’s commonly believed in the mental health field that it’s important the children learn to sleep on their own. Not doing it often generalizes to other problems, because it’s about a fairly important way that parents say no to their child.”